A Loss Or A New Start?

Hi to all my readers. It has been a long time ever since I logged on to this blog. What has made me feel like blogging again? Well, let's just say something I had experienced recently.

This time, I'll begin with a story about Tim and Kim. Tim was an ordinary young man searching for the love of his life like everyone else. The last relationship he got involved with was 2 years ago. Reason why the relationship didn't work out? Well, I have to say SOME THINGS IN LIFE JUST DON'T WORK OUT THE WAY YOU WANT IT TO BE.

After 1 and half years searching, he finally discovered that he had a strong bond and interest towards his friend, Kim. As they kept talking on the phone, texting each other on phone or online, they met up one day when Kim was having an outing with her friends. When they saw each other on that day, they hugged. In comfort Tim felt and Kim at the other hand requested Tim not to let go. As it went of for a moment, they got into a restaurant. Tim then ask Kim to choose her favourite cake as Tim was gonna buy her one piece. Kim chose 'New York Cheese Cake'. After Tim paid for her cake, Tim went off to regroup with his friends as it was his friend's birthday celebration.

As time went by, they got together but it wasn't 'official' like everyone else calls it. They were very loving and Tim said that it was the best time he had ever had and vice versa. Tim didn't matter much about the relationship being 'not official', but Tim wanted to make Kim happy by making it 'official'. So Tim planned to ask her out on 31st December 2006 to make it 'official'. They both then did went out together to a small gathering hosted by Tim's friends. As the clock ticked 12 midnight, 1st January of 2007, Tim then asked Kim "Would you be my girlfriend?". It tooked Kim a while to answer whereas she was still thinking. As Tim drove her home, Kim said "Yes". Tim was really happy, plus the smile of Kim's face made him happier.

Things between both of them were really good. They were loving, caring and funny. This had lasted for about 3 months. After that, some normal couple arguements occured. The arguement led them to a distinct feeling which was can't be described. This particular situation lasted for 3 days and on a Monday, March 19th 2007, Kim talked to Tim on the phone. Kim said, "I don't know how to say this". From that phrase and they way Kim sentenced it, Tim knew it was the end. Tim then assumed to Kim, "Are you gonna break up?". Kim silenced, a silent saying which meant "yes". Tim then begged for another chance to make things right in the relationship but all Kim did was to deny him. Tim felt really sad and really shocked things would end up this way. Tim didn't have the appetite to even eat his dinner which he packed from outside.

He drove around without setting a destination and eventually he called up Ristine requesting for a short meeting. When he arrived at her gate, he hugged Ristine with tears in his eyes and he told Ristine that he was single. Ristine then told him to take a walk around the housing area. As they walked, they arrived at the park where Tim and Kim were always there together. Tim then kept looking at the place where they used to sat on. Like rain, tears flowed from Tim's heart. Since then, Tim kept thinking of the first day they hugged.

For 1 and a half year searching, Tim finally found someone he claimed to be perfect. Do things have to end this instantly? Not even the effort of working things out? Is it a loss or a new start? I'll say.. I don't know either because loving someone is not as easy as it sounds. Some guys can just go around falling in love with plenty of girls. But for Tim, he hardly falls in love, and to him, love is something greater than being a boyfriend to another. Love is serious, it requires commitments. It is not something that would end so easily, it is definitely not something which you can cheat on. If you really love someone, you would treasure her, care more than anything for her, sacrifice the impossible for her and be loyal to her.

For some guys out there, don't cheat on your loved ones. Imagine if they cheat on you, how would you feel? Feel greatful that you have someone on your side to love you as much as they are capable to. Treasure those who loves you my friends. True love don't come around easily but feelings do. Feelings don't tell whether they are your true love. What tells that they are is the sacrifice they are willing to take for you. In life, things don't always go the way you want them to be as I stated earlier on. Whether it is a loss or a new start, it is up to you to decide.

Treasure

My dear readers, have you ever lose something really important in your life? Do you know the feeling of getting caught up in those situations? The more important question is, have you ever realise that you do not know what you have until it is gone? This is a very good topic given to me from a very good friend of mine which I would like to write a story on.

There was a brat name Tyler. He was 16 and he lived with his family. He would say that he was not one of his family's favourite person. This was his daily life routine; he wakes up early in the morning everyday for school. After school, he would always go spend all the money his parents gave on arcades. From the arcades, he goes from north to south spending his limited time on unnecessary activities. He rarely spend time with his family. He had always left his parents worrying for him before he comes home. When he comes home, his parents would always tend to lecture him and threaten him to leave the house upon his bad behaviours. He had always fight back with foul languages pouring out from his mouth without showing any respect.

One day, he stole a large sum of money from his parents and left the house. He then lives in a small rented room far from where his family is. The room is not at all comfortable to live in. For days, his parents couldn't get in touch with him leaving them feeling so worried. Somehow, after all the complications happened between him and his family, he still get in contact with his younger brother on alternate days secretly.

Few weeks later, Tyler had run out of money to support himself. No food, no drinks, no money to even pay his rent. Then he got thrown out of his room by the owner for not settling the dept he owed. Without a place to stay, he wandered around the streets never even having the thought of going back where he belongs. Suddenly, his younger brother appeared right in front of him with tears flowing down his soft cheeks furiously. He cried loudly for Tyler's name. In shocked Tyler was wondering what in the world has happened. His younger brother then spilled out that their parents have died caught up in a car crash. After listening to that horrible statement, he broke down and fell on his knees. He was too deeply shocked that not even a drop of tears could come out from his eyes. From that moment on, he vowed to himself that he will never ever do anything which he thinks his parents wouldn't want him to do. Also, from that moment on, a feeling of guilt for not treasuring his parents' love stucked in his pierced heart.

Parents always tend to lecture us. Could you think of a reason why? The reason is simple. They lecture us because they would not ever want us to walk the wrong road of our life. Trust me, parents are the people in the world that love you and truly care for you. This is the thing teenagers now a days never think of. Love and care from their parents. Think of it, how would you feel if your child or the person you love is walking the negative road? We should always treasure whatever we have right now before they fade away. Do not wait until they are gone only you realise what you have been missing all your life. Treasure the precious time given to you instead of letting it go to waste. Life is short and unpredictable. Appreciate your parents and never to fail them leaving them to dissapointment.

Plant a smile

Have anyone of you ever felt pain making someone else important in your life happy? Is it worth your pain? This is a situation some people may lose their directions thinking whether their actions are correct or wrong. It would be wrong to some people because they thought that they should at least gain something back in return by making others happy. NO! That is a total negative thought.

In life, it is always right and wise to make others happy but in a definate right way. Not by doing something not ethical and immoral. Like a friend of mine said before, "In our lifes, we must not always put ourself on top. We must always put others on top before our own. Service above self in short". Does this sound fimiliar? "Service above self". This is the moto used by the Interact Club which they are basically under the world known Rotary Club.

Have you ever try to make someone else happy and when they smile, you feel happy too? Yes, it is assured that almost everyone will feel happy too when making others smile. However, those that felt happy making others smile are sometimes fake happiness. These are what I called as people that suffer themselves for the happiness of others. These people are not wrong, but think about it my dear readers, these are the people that had placed you on top before them. They are the people that truly cares for you.

For those who suffer making others smile, it is a very good thing. It is a deed in fact I could say based on my point of view. However, do not ever expect something in return. Expecting something in return could turn yourself into someone that you are not. Another friend of mine, Terry once said, "I like making my friends and family happy. No matter what are the consequences I would face, I'll still always put them on top in my life. Making them happy, watching the smiling look on their faces makes me happy too. Although sometimes deep inside I suffer, I know that happiness is all that makes people smile and I'm willing to suffer myself for that".

Terry's wise word of wisdom had made me realise in reality the kinds of friends I had which doesn't even care for me. My dear readers, try to think deep, are your close friends for real or not? Beware of choosing friends. A friend could always cheat your mind and the next thing you know, you ended up losing something important in your life.

Plant a smile, a smile that brings true happiness to others.

Quit makes nothing, try makes something

Quit is a very big word for us. That word is very powerful that it could even pull off a tragic end of happiness. Take this for example; Danny and his friends were a band. They had been together playing as a band for almost 3 years. They were very friendly to each other treating each other like family members. But as clock ticked fast, Danny came to realise that he was not up to his bandmates' expectation. He was not good enough he felt. He felt everything just turned up wrongly as he went on for the band.

One day, Danny decided to quit the band. As he told his bandmates bout his side of story why he decided to quit, one of them scolded him, scolded him for not being confident in himself, not putting enought effort to drive himself more progressive and scolded him for easily quitting. Danny felt lost and did not know what to do. They then had an arguement about it.

After the arguement, he felt depressed. He called up Ronnie, his best friend to have a drink and a slow talk with him. As they both drinking at the bar, he told Ronnie what happened. Ronnie then told him "Danny, I do not want to lecture you about your actions. But I do have something to tell you. Your bandmates may have high expectations on you and that is a bloody good thing. If they have high expectations on you, it means they knew from beginning that you will be able to pull it off being a member in the band. If they knew you couldn't pull it off, they wouldn't have even invited you in the first place last three years ago. Think about Danny, if you quit, you will end up making nothing out of something. But if you put more effort, recognize your mistakes, you will definitely make something out of nothing!".

Yes! Ronnie is completely correct about what he said to Danny. After their long conversation, he went home and slow thinked about what Ronnie told him and also what his bandmates said when he announced the resignation. Finally, Mr and Mrs Wise knocked and planted Wise Juniour into his brains. The next day, he called up his bandmates and apologized. He said that he would give it a shot and try to be someone that fits their expectation.

See, in life, like what Ronnie said, if you quit, you'll never know how something taste like, feel like and look like. But as you try, you'll discover something new, tastier, softer and prettier. Life is all about experimenting, learning from mistakes and self-development. Do not quit on something you desire and have interest on, put more efforts to gain on whatever you want it to be. However, there are certain things you should never try. Don't try drugs, cigarettes and pre-marital sex.

No Smoking?

Are the signs for real or not? If anyone of you went to McDonald's at Projet petrol station which is located at Kuchai Lama, KL, you'll find this interesting. Around the McDonald's open area, there are "NO SMOKING" signs. But as you look around, you'll find people smoking at that particular area itself. The crews working there doesn't seem to give a jack at them at all. As you walk further away but still in the petrol station, something even more interesting that will attract your attention. There is a sign there that says something like "No smoking here, it is dangerous as it can cause explosions". Will it actually happen when people sitting at McDonald's smoke? Or the signs are just designated to decorate the place up?

Pain for good or just plain suffer?

Have we ever wondered and asked ourselves why when each and every bad times occurs? Have we even thought that if these suffering situations will benefit us? Or perhaps, it will just break us down in tears?

A friend of mine Beni once said that we must suffer each and every moment to gain what we desire. Well, personally i agree. To earn money, we work hard. To earn dignity and pride, we strive for the best. What about to get a person of your dream? A person that indirectly and mentally makes you a whole new complete person. We questioned ourselves sometimes. How? When is the right time? Where is the right place? What makes us able to do so?

George was a nice and kind man. He once had a girl that he claimed to be the girl of his life. He spent numerous quality time with her and also spent some hard time with her basically having the "bad couple moment" which I'm sure every couple had. As time passes by, George got a job in a not-so-succesful company. He began working hard in order to make the best out of his job not having paid at a fair price of his efforts. But his loyalty and interest to the job made him continue his job. As he worked hard, he gets busier day by day too. He had not have any time to spend on with his girlfriend anymore. He left her hanging waiting and waiting and still waiting. He felt guilthy leaving her playing with the tv remote everyday thinking when is he free to be there for her. As a result, he broke off with her. Practically setting her free to browse the whole world to herself. He felt relieved having to only focus on his job.

Several months later, George's job doesn't seem to get busy anymore. He had a lot of time to himself as though he can travel to wherever he desires. He started spending his time with his friends and entertaining them. But deep inside him, he felt a miss. He felt like there is a hole in his heart and something is needed to cover that hole. He even sometimes teared in the dark where noone else can notice.

Weeks later, he met with his ex-girlfriend. He was asked to go for a company party with her just to accompany her as a friend. So as they both went to the party, they had a great time. George started to feel something closing the hole of his heart. From then, he realised that what he needed is his ex-girlfriend to again have good and quality time.

Few days after he realised it, he called his ex-girlfriend. He told him about how he felt when he was with her at the party and thinked it over day and day that he wanted to get back with her. He wanted her in his life badly as he kept thinking of her. Therefore, he made his decision and asked her to be back with him. But in a shock, a chance he thought he would have, dissapeared in a flash as she said she don't think it is a good idea to be back together. He started begging like a baby but still she replied the same. Having his heart and hopes crushed, he felt lost and started smoking a pack of cigarettes a day.

Is George having to taste his own medicine? Is it worth it to beg so much and spoil his lungs? Or is George's ex-girlfriend have moved on? She's in love with another? She's scared the same thing is going to happen? What is the world is it?

Dear readers, imagine if this is your situation, what would you do? And is George's ex-girlfriend just plain heartless as he cried for her for long to mend the hole in his heart?

Love or Wants?

Imagine there's two person of your choice, the first is A and the second is B.

A - Loves you, willing to do anything you ask and willing to change anything for you.
B - Doesn't love you, still cares for anything you demand but doesn't change anything for you.

Apparently, you have a little feelings for A but you are wanting B so much. Which will you go for?

According to some of my friends who would like to remain anonymous to this topic, 'C' said that he would go for A because of the willingness and sacrifice she would make just to be with him. Since A willing to change anything, C said he don't have to be afraid if she doing something he doesn't like. He also said "how often do we get a person like that in Malaysia?". Lol. That is so true.

As for D, he said that he would go for B even though B doesn't love him. I was so impatience to listen to his reasons to his choice. He said that if you want B so much, it means you have feelings for B too. People changes so do we. Even thought B doesn't love you, as time passes by, she might. It is a challenge to him, D said. A challenge of changing the person's attitude and personality to what he desires. D said, to go for A is too easy. Why not go for B? Accept the challenge, going for B could really test your patiences.

As for E, he said "just go to wherever your heart desires most and don't look back". If you look at it this way, it is quite logical of what he said. If you have no feelings towards a person that loves you, what for making yourself suffer and still wasting your time being with that person?
Someone i've known very well always says "it is no point being with someone when you don't have feelings for her".

1 quit as 10 starts

A good friend of mine told me something really shocking to me recently. She was in Johor Bahru, her hometown. As she was eating with my family in a nearby restaurant near a secondary school, she saw a lot of students walking out from the school as school finishes. Then not long after that, smoke fills the area. A group of students including girls are smoking, puffing tar into their lungs right outside the school. She said that they looked merely just 13-14 years old.

When i paid my attention listening to the ages mentioned and cigarettes involved, i deeply felt pity and sad. It is not for myself but to them, teenagers and even some of my friends. One thing i would like to admit, i'm a smoker myself too. But, the main thing is, we smokers who had smoked for a certain period are mostly to be found regretful of our actions. As we all know, smoking are hazardful to our bodies. Therefore, we smokers that faced those circumstances before would tend to quit smoking. BUT, as each one of us wants to quit, 10 teenagers would like to start.

Have we ever wonder why teenagers would wanna start smoking? Is it for the looks? The impression of them being 'cool'? Stress and hypertension? Or just playing around where a lot of teenagers claimed to be doing with cigarettes. Most teenagers that 'played around' with cigarettes will eventually get addicted to it and start wasting their money buying it. To all of you teenagers, what will you be thinking looking at people at young ages smoking across the streets spoiling themselves? Think before you do something not worthy and end up regretting.

Introduction

Hie to all that may visit this blog. This blog that i've created to express from what i've came across through my eyes. Another part of the reason is also to remind ourselves how important our life is and not to waste it upon unnecessary objectives and actions. I myself, who would like to remain anonymous had came across uncountable situations and circumstances which i think it would be a very thoughtful lesson that would address to all the readers of this blog. Don't misunderstand ladies and gentlemens out there, this is neither a blog to impress nor gossip about others. I'm keeping my morality and my ethics straight. I'll also not copy other peoples' work. That is not ethical as we all know. It is a crime that is known as plagiarism. Anyways, please do visit frequently my brothers and sisters out there.